Relationships & Dating

Date on Purpose: Six Things That Matter More Than the Spark

Chemistry tells you someone is interesting. It cannot tell you whether they will be kind at 2 a.m. with a sick child, honest about money or faithful when life gets dull. Here are six things worth watching, the questions worth asking, and the red flags no spark should talk you out of.

YESHVA EditorialOctober 2, 20266 min readEditor: Luciano Olguin

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